During the period of engagement the two do not meet. The man shuns the kraal in which the girl lives, or if he should enter it the girl conceals herself. . . . He lives with a certain number of warriors and girls in one camp and she with a certain number of girls and warriors in another. If the girl becomes pregnant during this time she is disgraced and the engagement is usually broken. Or, in exceptional cases, they are married as soon as possible. Otherwise [after confinement and the weaning of the child] the girl goes to a distant warrior camp in the hope of finding a husband there.1

1Merker, M.n/an/an/an/an/a, , 44 (Dietrich Reimer. By permission).